21
Sep
The 7 Habits Reviewed
I have now completed “The 7 habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R Covey and as I said in an earlier post I have provided a brief synopsis below.
This turned out to be a very interesting read with lots of soul searching needed to fully appreciate what Steven is saying. I don’t think this is a book to read and then move on. It’s more of a reference book to help analyse how you as a person react to other people and your environment. People assume that the way the are is based upon one of three things.
- Genetic – I act the way I act because of my genetic make-up
- Social – I act the way I act because of my parents
- Environment - I act the way I act because of where I was brought up
The main thrust, for me anyway, was that fact that he argues that there is a gap between stimulus and response in humans. Pavlov earlier experimented and conditioned dogs to salivate for food at the ringing of a bell. Steven argues that humans are the only animal who can decide what response they give to a certain stimulus based upon their paradigm or ‘view of a situation’.
He tells a poignant tale of a father on a train with his two children. The father sits emotionless as his children run amok in the carriage. Steven, based on his ‘view’ or paradigm gets the stimulus that this behaviour is unacceptable and his response is to challenge the father about the childrens antics. At which point the father informs Steven that they have just come from the hospital where the childrens mother has just died. The father explains that he is in a state of shock at the death of his wife and suggests that perhaps the childrens misbehaviour is their way of dealing with the situation. Suddenly the authors ‘view’ or paradigm has changed. The situation hasn’t changed, but his response to the stimulus would have been very different if he had assessed the situation with the right paradigm.
He goes on to provide a framework of 7 habits that will help you to become a balanced individual who can respond to stimulus in a objective way based upon the morals and principles that you hold dear. He states that in order to reap the rewards of a fulfilling social, family and working life there has to be enough of what he calls ‘Production Capability’.
For example, if you want to have a good relationship with your children then it’s not enough just to be the breadwinner. If you spend time with them, truly listen and be interested in what they say then you will reap the rewards throughout your life.
I will only briefly outline his 7 habits but encourage you to go and read the book as I’m sure you will get something from it.
- Be Proactive
- Begin with the End in Mind
- Put First Things First
- Think Win/Win
- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
- Synergise
- Sharpen the Saw